Today is Father’s Day, a Beautiful Day that is used to celebrate Men all over the world who carry the mantle as a Father Figure in so many different capacities that are either biologically, through adoption, through mentorship, as an uncle, a big brother, a step father, a pastor, a leader, an employer, and so much more.
Today, for me I can’t help but think about so many people who are grieving due to the lost of their father figure either recently or over the past few years or even decades. The sad part is, not all of these fathers are gone through death. Some are absent and have chosen to abandon their children and some are even in prison due to a crime they commited or have been falsely accused. I see you, I feel you, and I’m praying for you.
Today, I wanted to encourage you and share my truth, the truth that so many others have to face year after year. This post is not written to hurt anyone’s feelings or bash anyone, it is simply “My Truth” and “My Expereince”.
Growing up as a child and as a daughter I always felt abandoned and rejected. My mother died when I was eleven years old and my biological father was in and out of the picture. As the years went by, God allowed awesome men to pour into me and to encourage me in so many ways and in different seasons in my life. Today, I honor them, respect them, and I love them very much. Yet and still there’s a place in my heart that cannot be filled. I always struggled with being myself 100% to a “Father Figure”. I longed to have unconditional love and transparent communication to a Father Figure who could just get me and accept for who I am. I am a Woman that is growing and changing and sometimes people forget that and are unable to meet you right where you are.
As a therapist, I work with so many women who struggle with the same thing or they are single mothers’ whose children struggle because their father refuses to step up to the plate. A father plays a huge role in their child’s life and they have so much influence over them. This is a book that I always recommend to their children, Father to the Fatherless: The Heavenly Promise, by James E. Williams. This book is also on Amazon Kindle and Ebay.
Over the years, God has shown me that I can trust Him and that He is a Good Good Father. He is truly the best Father that I have ever known and ever had. With him, I can be myself, I can cry to Him, laugh with Him, recieve correction, direction, and guidance from Him. I know that My Father loves me unconditionally and his intentions concerning me is always genuine and for my good. God wooed me and he was very patient with me as he showed me that I can trust Him in the process of that He healed me, touched my heart, and has blessed me over and over and over and over again. I can share so many supernatural experiences that I have had with God so far but you guys will probably think I am crazy, lol.
Throughout scripture, God’s Word shows us over and over again that he is close to the Fatherless and he has a special place in his heart for us. Here are just a few scriptures:
Psalm 68:5 Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation.
James 1:27 Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.
Psalm 27:10 For my father and my mother have forsaken me, but the Lord will take me in.
John 14:18 I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.
As I counsel so many Christians, so many have a hard time trusting God because they put God and their earthly father in the same category. Honestly, that is is a natural reaction. Think about it if you had a father that was absent or who was around but you were neglected, abused, and/or taken advantage of this can cause you to have a distrust of God even as a Christian. This is called an Orphan Spirit. I urge you to study this and see if these an area that you struggle with.
For me, when I am going through different emotions, the Lord will remind me ever so sweetly that, “Daughter, I am here. When you are mad, sad, angry, frustrated, tired, happy, I am right here just give it to me, I can handle it”. In that moment, I pour out my heart and I can feel the burden lifted and all I can do is weep and be reminded that the Lord is a Good Good Father. I can promise you, that the Lord wants to do the same exact thing for you, but you have to let Him in. One of my favorite songs is by Good Good Father. It fills my heart up so much. Comment down below what your favorite song is about God so I can check it out and add it to my playlist :).
I just want to take time to pray for you: Lord, I thank you and I love you, I thank you that you are a Good Good Father. I pray that those who are reading this open up their hearts to you and open up the deepest part of their innermost being to recieve healing, comfort, and experience you in a new way. I pray God that they come to the complete knowledge of knowing that they are adopted into sonship with you and that you love them unconditionally and you are more than capable of handling all of their pain. I pray that you go to the Father just as you are and in whatever season that you are in. God there is nothing to hard for you and your Arm is not too short to reach every single one of us all at the same time. I pray that broken relationships are healed and that our minds are transformed through the Word of God. Father, take off our blinders, take off out thinking and limitations of our minds in understanding who you are. I pray that they walk in forgiveness and not allow anything or anyone to seperate them from you due to thier pain. I pray God that they are comforted and that you give them the ablity to see your goodness and to see themselves through your eyes. I pray that you use their stories and testimonies to help and encourage others in Jesus Name I Pray.